#45 - 10 Hard Earned Lessons I Learned about Love
What’s your definition of love?
The dictionary defines it as, “an intense feeling of deep affection” or “a great interest and pleasure in something”.
While I believe that love is these things, it’s also so much more than that. Don’t you think?
Like most women in my generation, I grew up under the influence of mainstream media and societal and cultural norms. I learned about the meaning of love through Disney movies, Rom Coms and popular magazines.
From Seventeen to Cosmo, I was taught that love should always be sizzling - either it’s hot or it’s not.
I learned to obsess over love interests, decipher cryptic signs and bend over backwards to “make them want you”.
To be happy, I needed someone to complete me. If I didn’t have a prince charming to “save me”, I was basically screwed.
This kind of messaging messed me up for years. So much that I drained my energy by placing my worth on the validation and interest I’d get from potential partners I wasn’t even sure I liked.
I knew I needed to reprogram my thought patterns and automatic behaviors because I didn't grow up with the tools to communicate constructively in interpersonal relationships. I somehow believed that we should all be mind readers and would avoid hard and vulnerable conversations at all costs. I subscribed to the idea that relationships should always feel good. And if they didn’t, I could cancel my subscription at any time. On to the next one.
It wasn't until after a few failed relationships and the feelings of frustration, that I began to work on changing my perception about love. I went on a quest to create a conscious relationship with a partner, one where we could be consistently and authentically happy together.
And after practicing in relationships and years of coaching and therapy, my personal definition of love changed.
In my latest podcast episode, I share with you 10 (hard-earned) lessons I learned about love.
I’m curious to hear, which one of these lessons resonates with you the most?
NEW WORKSHOP ANNOUNCEMENT:
My partner Mario and I are facilitating a FREE workshop together. It’s about creating and maintaining a secure relationship with a partner.
What are we covering?
In this workshop we’ll share what we’ve learned through the different phases of relationships:
From being single to dating, crossing the bridge into a more serious relationship (talking about moving in together, marriage and kids), to navigating conflict and hard conversations.
We’ll also share the books, tools and resources we find useful that have helped us grow and maintain connection in our relationship.
Who is this for?
We created this workshop for people who are single and wanting to learn more about calling in an ideal partner, and partners who are interested in learning more about how to build intimacy, security and closeness in their relationship
When?
It will be LIVE on Thursday, February 24 @ 8pm PST // Friday, Feb 25 @ 12pm in Bali
How can I sign up?
You can register for FREE on my website @ www.leannahlumauig.com/relationshipworkshop
Hope to see you there!